Psychiatry and psychology tell us that repression is unhealthy. Yet, we frequently find ourselves sublimating ourselves when we are resisting something new. The’funny’ thing is, we resist the new even in many times where we are on the verge of having a new need manifest in our life, or where we are about to achieve or learn something new and wonderful.
What we repress in these examples is our need to surrender to something new and powerful that we think will make our life far better than it was before. We wish to surrender to this new wave of good fortune, let it wash over us, carry us where we wish to be, where we feel we belong now.
However we’ve got a problem : we have been taught that only tiny children surrender, and they do so because they’re weak and helpless or do not know any better. We’ve been taught that folks who surrender are defeated people–after all, if there’s a war and your side surrenders, your side lost and the enemy can impose its will on you. If you surrender all hope, you have fully given up on having or doing something that you wanted. So–if you surrender to something you are weak, or ignorant, or you’ve been beaten ; and in all those cases you are in danger of being mistreated.
Yet, as we use’surrender’ as a generally negative metaphor, we don’t see that surrendering to something truly just means to stop resisting it ; and if that something is good and amazing, why should not we surrender to it? of course, this implies we must give up our fake sense of already being perfect and complete. We surrender this notion ; we surrender to the best thing that’s trying to tear down our walls of alarmed resistance so that it can present us with its blessings.
Doubtless the most prominent example we have of this is falling in love. When many of us are finding themselves falling completely in love with someone, or they meet someone who could very well be a dream ( wo ) man, they don’t reveal their feelings for them. As an interesting point, what percentage of us really give the person mixed or fake signals? We try to deceive them ; we make them think that we don’t find them to be anything special…we do not need them…sure they’re nice and we enjoy their company but that is’s the way we feel about many of us, what’s so great about them?..we actually hate to burst their bubble, but…they have no power over us!
As an important point, we might tell ourselves those really same lies. Why do we do these childish things when it comes to the best force in the world–love? We fear to be hurt, that is the reason why. What if we surrender to our love to find out that we’re not good enough and don’t make them happy? What if the relationship turns bad after some year and it all has to end? What if ( s ) he turns out to actually be some ghastly beast? What if…what if…?
‘What if’ can be used as a statement of novel opportunities, but too many times it gets used as a statement of dread. We do not have to dread the love that comes to find us. We will be able to surrender to it sweetly, and let ourselves be swept away in grace and beauty, repressed and harming ourselves no more.
Letting Go
Letting go of the old is one of the toughest things in the world for most human beings. Letting go of old worn-out habits, old ineffectual thought patterns, old routines that simply don’t don’t fit anymore, old impressions of places or individuals that are now no longer useful, old feelings that are emotional scars that may not heal and get in the way of progress, are all things that the majority when reading of them nod their heads and agree should be thrown away like an old ratty security blanket from youth. Yet, how few of those people really would dump or learn past these things! Most would just continue holding on to them.
Change–which is the one sustained in the universe and in life–is quite a scary thing for most people. Not tiny changes, for small changes are so common to our everyday experience that we even take them for granted. We take for granted that the sky will change and it’s going to be lighter today and darker tonight, or if it is cloudy today it will be bright in a day or two. We even take for granted some longer-term changes ; we know that we were shorter and weaker when we were five than we are now, and we know that the short, puny five-year-old before us will one day grow into a taller, stronger woman or man. There are even some gloomy changes that we take for granted : if we have got a pet dog we all know that one day that dog will grow old and die. We don’t like to think of that day and so we infrequently do, but we know it will occur and we do not lose sleep over it.
But there are more norms that we cling to with a quiet despondency, and anything that threatens to switch them we feel threatens us. The thing of it actually is, all these changes have to do with things that are inside us. They may be embodied in outward circumstances, such as our careers or homes, but even then they must do with what we feel we are as a soul, a personality.
There is one thing that most adults fear more than death or, it seems, even physical torture. And that’thing’ is being wrong. It is this fear of being wrong that prevents us, most of the time, from letting go of the old. Too many times, when we are about to let go of the old we feel that we are admitting to having been wrong ( and the assumption that there’s something shameful about being wrong is itself a negative, false assumption ). You see, we feel as if we have invested just far too much resources to learn and work out what we suspect we have. We have , an overpoweringly forceful emotional investment in what we think we know–our ways of doing stuff, our priorities, our beliefs, our feelings about folk and places and things.
The ego, which is rightly the gatekeeper to our spirit, asserts to us,’Wait a minute! You are thinking about changing you techniques with this? You are preparing to change your decision about that? Don’t you remember when that certain event happened to you that proved to you the way you’ve been doing things since that time works? You’re safe! Why change? It may be exceedingly dangerous!’
But the ego forgets that change is the only continual in life. It forgets the past is dead ; only the here and now is real. We will be able to let go of the old when we find that it’s no longer helpful, or it gets in the way of a higher level of feat, or our circumstances have changed. It is natural for us to let go of the old ; for as youngsters we do so easily. But as we get older, we become a bit more and a little more expected to have permanent understanding of stuff. Our society values our pride in thinking we know everything. Instead, we will and must learn to take pride in being fearless about messing up, changing, seeing a new perspective, letting go of the old, and reveling in the unending journey the end of which is not an arrival but an evolution into ever-new probabilities.
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